Not forgetting about you

“I learned… that inspiration does not come like a bolt, nor is it kinetic, energetic, striving, but it comes to us slowly and quietly and all the time, though we must regularly and every day give it a little chance to start flowing, prime it with a little solitude and idleness.”
— Brenda Ueland

Stress, fear, negativity, too much to do and doing things for others at the expense of our own needs — these all stifle our innate creativity. Relaxation, fun, meditation, and going after our dreams all get the creative juices flowing.

The above description fits most persons these days, especially those within the diaspora community I have crossed paths with that have yet to learn to take good care of themselves both physically and mentally.  That’s all they have truly.

On the whole most Africans in the diaspora in stressful situations strive to ensure that they save all they can, working sometimes 24/7 in all conditions, most, hostile simply because of the colour of their skin; just so they can amass set amounts to pay off debts back in their home countries, put kids to school, put in to business or build houses in the hope of having homes for when they return.  Dreams which turn out to be nothing more than pure hell on earth psychologically.

Without repeating the echoes of so many African diaspora before that have lamented on this, the very persons within their families they entrust such funds to are often the ones that betrayal them and will deny it if and when confronted to the point of even murder.  The relatives will blame each other or the government or just about anyone else, but themselves. It is pure and simple. You are forgotten to exist as a real person but are seen as a source of supply, much like the water from streams which not many bother to stop and question it’s source.  You just are. When you raise this issue you will most often be told candidly that you should have been wiser.

So I say to fellow persons: be kind to yourself, do not forget about you. Do not loose yourself in sacrificing all of you to appease or please everyone. This is an infinite task. Others will all be just fine with or without you when all is said and done. It is the way it always has been since time immemorial.

Question is: Can you be comfortable with yourself? Be creative – you will be pleasantly surprised.

 

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Constant transit

In dream-aspiration I try my level best to spend a fair bit of my time focusing on positive strategies for an uncertain future. This is mostly because the other way of looking at the future would be as a big flashing ‘here be dragons’ sign.  And that could prove daunting on many levels.

Like most persons out there, we know what’s happening out there in the big wide world. Or at least we think we do even if it is in relation to our given exposures and curiosity.  I know that there are gigantic problems, some global, some not so but that whoever is at the receiving end of their wake feels similar emotions and hardships.  I am aware that the society I reside in and climate is changing,  – we’ve just experienced the very first snow out of season and the fuel bills will definitely reflect this!

I also I’m increasingly aware that my grandchildren’s world will definitely not look like this one – if anything, my great-grandchildren may not even look aesthetically or even genetically like me or my parents thanks to plastic surgery and nanotechnology.  Everything changes in this universe. We are in constant transit.

It’s scary stuff. And yes, it does sometime keep me awake some but not most nights. But then it’s morning again. The birds, bless them, still manage the morning chorus

My message to you? Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.

I wish you enough.